• Choosing A Headstone: What you need to know

    A headstone is a lasting memorial to a life that was lived, and something that will be visited by future generations of the family for many years to come. Choosing a headstone that is durable, easy to maintain, and inscribed with the appropriate wording means creating a tribute that will stand the test of time.

    • Know the rules. Some cemeteries have strict regulations about headstones. These rules encompass everything from size and style to the materials from which the headstones are made. Once you know the parameters, you can begin to make your own plan.

    • Determine your budget. Headstone prices vary, and you can buy them from many different sources. Research the market, and decide how much you are able to spend, understanding that limiting your budget will limit your options in terms of materials and style.

    • Choose your materials. There are many options for headstones, including granite, bronze, marble, slate, sandstone, limestone and fieldstone. It’s important to consider factors like the look of the stone and ease of carving, as well as the climate and how the weather will affect the headstone over time.

    • Decide on your design. You can choose an upright headstone or one that is flat to the ground. There are also many different shapes and sizes on the market, including capped stone, tablet, plaque or sculptured cross. The headstone can include a vase or can be part of a larger monument. For married couples, you can choose a double headstone.

    • Personalize with inscriptions and engraving. Beyond the name of the person, and sometimes room for a spouse’s name, there are symbols, photos and other carvings that can be etched onto the headstone. You can also choose a fitting epitaph and have that inscribed on the stone.

    • See to the maintenance of the headstone. The care and maintenance of the headstones is usually shared between the cemetery and the family of the deceased. Find out what’s expected of you, so that you can ensure the headstone remains in good condition.

    Committed to Care, Concern, Cooperation and Service, the Cincinnati Catholic Cemetery Society has been helping Greater Cincinnati families plan their final arrangements since 1843. If you’d like to learn more about choosing a headstone or planning a Catholic funeral, we can help. Stop by to meet us and see what we have to offer, or visit our website for more information.

  • Planning a Post-Funeral Reception

    If you’re in charge of planning a funeral, it’s a good idea to consider a post-funeral reception. It’s not required, but it’s the perfect place for people to connect after the service, and that’s an important part of the healing process. Here, we offer a sampling of questions to ask yourself while you’re making your plans.

    • Why host a reception? As mentioned above, a reception offers people a place to connect. By serving food in a welcoming place, you’re fostering a relaxed atmosphere in which people can tell stories, share memories, gain closure, and help each other to heal.

    • Where should you hold the reception? In times past, people hosted receptions in their homes, with friends and family members bringing dishes to share. That’s still done in some cases, but the big trend right now is for funeral homes to provide reception space onsite, often with catering service provided, for the convenience of the families. If you have your heart set on a particular funeral home that does not offer this service, don’t worry. Many people find that choosing a restaurant that was special to the person who has died is an excellent and easy alternative.

    • What kind of food should you serve? The kind of food served at a reception depends largely on your heritage, tradition, where you live, and where you’re holding the reception. Some people serve only appetizers and light snacks, or pastries and coffee, while others provide a full spread. Others prefer to host a potluck style reception, inviting guests to bring their favorite dishes to share. If you’re dining at a restaurant, you might choose to have a limited menu or serve the food buffet style. Get some help planning this, whether it’s from a friend, a funeral director, or a restaurant manager.

    • Do you need audio-visual equipment? This may seem like an odd question, because you’re probably not planning on incorporating entertainment into the reception. It can be nice, though to play music or a DVD tribute to your loved one. If you choose a private reception hall over a restaurant, you have much more freedom to customize your experience.

    • Who should “work” the event? Obviously, if you choose a restaurant there will be staff, and the same is true for a catered reception. If you choose to go the potluck route, though, it’s a good idea to delegate responsibility. Friends and family members want a way to feel helpful and useful, so choose someone to organize details, and others to see to the logistics of the event.

    Planning the post-funeral reception can also be part of the pre-planning process. When you preplan your funeral, you get to decide on all aspects of the day, from the service to the reception to your final resting place. For more information about pre-planning, contact Cincinnati Cemeteries for more information by visiting our website .

  • What You Need To Know About Cremation

    Cremation has been around for thousands of years, but some people still aren’t sure exactly how the process works. The option of being cremated is becoming increasingly popular as opposed to traditional burials. If you’re pre-planning your funeral (and it’s recommended that you do), you should educate yourself on cremation to determine if the choice is right for you.

    Cremation Benefits

    • Often less expensive than burials

    • More environmentally friendly

    • Ashes can be kept in an urn by a family member or scattered wherever you choose

    • All funeral types still available

    Funerals with Cremation

    One common misconception is that if someone is cremated, they aren’t able to have a traditional funeral service. This actually couldn’t be farther from the truth. Your family can still hold a traditional funeral including body viewing with an open casket. This is because the ceremony is held before the body is cremated. A ceremonial cremation can also be held, with an urn in place of the body in a casket. Memorial services are also still an option with cremation.

    Catholic Cremations

    For many years cremation was not an appropriate action to be taken within the Catholic church. The Church has allowed cremation for at least the past 20 years, but the nuances may be a bit difficult to understand. That’s why it’s recommended that you meet with an officiating priest to learn more about a Catholic cremation. When Catholics are cremated they are often placed in a columbarium, which is a memorial structure that houses urns and allows your loved ones to visit.

    If you’re interested in learning more about cremation in Cincinnati, contact Cincinnati Catholic Cemetery Society today.

  • Important Questions to Ask When Planning a Funeral

    If you’re planning a funeral, whether it be your own or that of a loved one, there are certain questions you’ll need to ask along the way. While planning your own funeral may sound a bit macabre, it makes sense for a lot of reasons. At the very least, discussing or recording your preferences ahead of time can make the process easier for your loved ones and leave them with fewer questions to answer.

    Burial or Cremation?

    While traditional burials are still popular, cremation has grown in popularity over the years. Both options allow the deceased to be memorialized, with an urn offering remembrance for cremation and a traditional burial plot also available. This is a personal choice that should be made or communicated ahead of time if possible.

    What Type of Ceremony?

    There are many choices when it comes to the type of ceremony you prefer. There are more traditional funerals and then more ceremony-like gatherings to remember the deceased. Will there be an open or closed casket is another consideration. Even if someone is cremated, they can often be in a casket for the funeral before cremation takes place.

    What Happens to Possessions?

    After someone passes away, their assets and possessions are typically distributed. If they don’t have some type of will or documentation of this, families can often get into arguments and the courts are left to decide what’s best.

    Who Pays for the Funeral?

    Funerals and their related expenses can often be quite costly. Pre-planning or pre-paying can take some of the financial burden off your loved ones should you pass away unexpectedly. If you are a veteran, the government might pay all or some of your funeral expenses.

    To learn more about pre-planning your funeral contact Cincinnati Catholic Cemetery Society today.

  • Why You Should Plan Ahead When It Comes to Your Funeral

    Being the guest of honor is usually a joyous occasion, however, that isn’t the case at your own funeral. While some people never make their wishes known, others pre-plan their funeral or memorial service and make their preferences known to their loved ones.

    Not only will this option allow you to be remembered the way you prefer, it can also make it easier on your family in their time of grief. Planning a funeral can be quite stressful, especially if your loved ones don’t know what you would have wanted. There are plenty of choices to be made, from whether to be buried or cremated to having an open or closed casket if you choose to be preserved.

    Some people are of the mindset of “I don’t care what happens to me after I’m dead”. While this may be true, leaving the burden on your family can make a difficult time even more stressful. You may think your family knows you well enough to know what you would want, but if you don’t make those preferences known, preferably in writing, they may not be carried out.

    You can also opt to pay some or all of your funeral costs ahead of time, easing the financial burden on your loved ones. Don’t be afraid to have an end of life discussion with your loved ones if you learn you are ill, or even if not.

    For a Catholic funeral, you should also consider which passages of scripture you would like read at your service as well as what music you would like to be played. Knowing all of your choices ahead of time can help make your preferences known so your family and friends can celebrate your life once you have moved on. Contact Cincinnati Catholic Cemetery Society today for more information.